Dealing with a break up or a best friend spilt up is one of the hardest things. I understand. Remember that you won't feel down forever and eventually one day you'll look back and know that you made the right decision. Or when you get broken up with just know they probably weren't trying to hurt you , they just wanted the best for you and they couldn't give that to you anymore. Keep you head up and smile beautiful 😍 days will get better ❤️
Sorry I haven't been on. :) I just wanted to say that you are all beautiful and are worth it. Get rid of those in your life that think otherwise. It may be hard, but I promise after a few months when you are over them, it will be worth it. ❤️ break ups are hard, but don't last forever. If you ever get the chance, don't go back. It may be tempting but I've had the chance. Now I'm as strong as I'll ever be. Keep your head up darling 😘 Now, in middle or high school, you may be more interested in boys than you previously have been. This is a totally normal thing.
Referring back to my post about friendship troubles, it is good to find other friends - whether this be a girl or boy. Say you get close to a boy. And now you sit next to him at lunch, and talk to him more, and hang out with him more than these other so called friends. These friends may be even more distant to you now that you have chosen to be with a guy. They may appear to be jealous, or mad. But this guy you can tell anything too, and talking to others about your life may seem like a good idea. Go for it. If you trust him he can be your best friend. There is no rules saying your best friend has to be of the same gender. (Besides it doesn't appear that guys spread gossip as much as girls.) Say some of your friends are happy for you, and will listen to all of your boy drama, and try to give you good advice. Some of your friends will listen, even though they might not want too, and comfort you. And others will flat out ignore all you have to say about guys. This is normal. People mature at different times. It's good to maintain friendships, but be careful who you talk too about things. You don't want rumors to spread, and relationships to crumble. What I'm trying to get across here is that although boys may seem like a good distraction, make sure they don't get in the way of other relationships, and other things including schoolwork (which i believe to be most important.) No but for real, today our society is full of jealousy, envy and barely any positivity girls spread to eachother. It doesn't take a lot. Just smile. Say hi. Compliment their outfit, their new hairstyle, or their A+ on the test. People don't realize how much little compliments can make a persons day. It really does.
Let's face it. We've all been through tough times. We've all believed we were doing the wrong, and we have believed it will never get better. Everyone goes through these things.
In a school environment, it can be especially hard to not be involved in some sort of unwanted drama. Say you are just starting middle school, or even high school for that matter. You made all sorts of plans with your best friend, and another girl - that you are really close too comes and joins you and your best friend in all sorts of activities. You're excited that the 3 of you will be able to hang out together and have fun. Until one day, you start noticing your two close friends are closer than ever - and you're not really a part of the group anymore. In this sort of situation, it is easy to start listing all the things you did wrong. It's easy to think they are horrible people, and start listing all sorts of ways to get back at them. Don't just immediately assume they don't like you anymore. I know this might be hard, but when they are ignoring you at lunch, or making plans without you, just mention how it would be fun to all hang out sometime. Maybe go to the mall? If they seem disinterested, or continue to ignore you, don't be afraid to let them know how you're feeling. Tell them how you think you aren't being acknowledged or you are feeling left out. If they are true friends they won't make excuses, or reasons they aren't talking to you. They might mention how you just don't seem like you are trying to be included and all that same old hurtful stuff. Just be nice, flash smiles and give them compliments - let them know, you are there and would like to talk. If they continue to make you feel bad about yourself, and they just aren't listening to you, or treating you right, slowly let your friendship go. I'm not saying to be rude to them, and spread gossip, just start hanging out with other people. I know this is hard, especially since these were your best friends, and you don't want them to spread rumors. You don't want to sit by yourself, or be that one girl who left her friends. Trust me - if they were really your friends, they would start to notice you not hanging with them as much. They might want you to come back with them. That part is up to you. They might spend more time with you, they might just end up treating you the same way. You never know unless you try is all I can say. Just be nice and don't start gossip. Times like this cannot last forever, and they might last for a long time. But things will get better - I promise. I've been through all sorts of drama, nights where I feel used, or useless. But trust me - there is someone somewhere in the world who is always there for you. Whether it be a parent, a sibling, a relative, a teacher, or a friend. Even that cute guy you saw walking yesterday. Someone will always be there. Talk to people when you feel down. Someone you know you can trust 100%. Even if you just need someone to listen. Express yourself: draw, create a story, write a song. Try writing about your feelings in a diary. Even just talk to yourself when you are alone. Somehow, get those feelings out. Someone will always be there for you - even the people you least expected. "Everyone wants happiness, no one wants pain. You can't have a rainbow without a little rain." - Unknown |